Sunday, July 16, 2006

Pondering that....

Do you ever stop to think about how anonymity on the internet lets people open up like they never would if it was in "in person" relationship? I have been guilty of doing just that.. thinking that the other person was genuine and real.. only come to find out. ehhh.. not so much..Don't get me wrong.. I have made some very special friends online.. and have met many in real life.. Been out of the country with some for a few days.. that was a hoot.. and one of the most memorable trips I have ever been on in my life.. Who cares that we were lost.. Hell.. we were lost in CANADA!! How cool it THAT???
Each person I have met takes a place in my heart. One very special person.. I have never "met".. in real life.. but our hearts have.. and our souls have..and she knows things about me.. that I would never tell a living soul.. Im sure I know things about her.. that are only for me...Growing in the friendship we have made.. through talks.. fights.. laughs.. tears.. silence.. and talking again.. has taught me so many things about life.. about people.. about her.. and about me.. They say that each person gives you gifts when they touch your heart.. not gifts of a tangible nature.. but gifts nonetheless..I believe that is true.. I believe I have been given the gift of being trusted.. and I have been given the gift of a life long friend..
I have been accused of seeing the world through rose colored glasses.. For the most part.. I tend to agree with that.. but it desn't stop me from knowing.. whats real.. people arent always angels.. they arent always nice.. and God knows.. they dont always act like you want them to! People are people.. they have their good sides.. and not so good sides.. you take the wheat with the chaff as my granny used to say..
The most important thing I have learned is this.. Watch your words.. however non important they might be to you at the time they are said.. they can have far reaching.. and life changing consequences.. They can't be taken back.. In class.. a couple semesters ago.. my teacher gave us the concept of the 6/6/6 rule.. and that is.. Don't share anything.. that you dont want repeated.. in 6 minutes.. 6 months.. or 6 years.. because someone who hears you say it.. will remember it.. There are some words I would like to take back.. but I can't.. and that sucks.. But i go on.. trying to learn from it.. trying to not make the same mistake twice.. I know.. SOME are too much fun to just make once.. but that one.. wasn't... I regret it more than words can say..
OK.. thats as much as yall get.. letting people peek into the affairs of my heart isn't so easy anymore..

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

I just love you.

Bammy said...

I just love you back..

Anonymous said...

And sometimes the ones you think you can trust, you can't. And the ones you don't think you can...you should. Sometimes the good things are hidden in plain sight. True friendship doesn't always look like you think it should look girl. Don't take for granted the friend that is right in front of you..could be your life long friend thru thick and thin well after all the others are long gone.
Look deeper.

Bammy said...

I know who the first anonymous post came from.. Who are you and why do you think you know me so well to think I know NOT who my friends are?

Anonymous 2 said...

I do know you, althouh not well. I wasn't really talking about you not knowing who your friends are. That was a general third person sort of statement. Probably meaning me most of all, in trusting the wrong people. But I think in general, we are all fooled by our very own hearts. Am I wrong? I think there are those in your life, in my life and in all our lives who we take for granted, that they will always be there. Sometimes we place great importance on some, who in the end hurt us and we have forgotten some of the more quiet ones who could have been the real gems in our lives. Just don't want you to do that. : )
Signed Your friend...

Anonymous said...

Well this is another Anonymous poster, but I DO know you well and have spent time with you.

I thought one of your most memorable trips was another that you have mentioned, but guess sometimes we are wrong, which can be disheartening.

Im still very proud of you, and feel privileged to call you friend.

Bammy said...

I have had many memorable trips.. Been from Cape Cod.. to Oregon.. to Florida.. throughout Texas.. goodness.. NAMES people.. NAMES!!! Why ya hidin? LOL

Anonymous said...

Ya know, it's not really hiding. It's being able to talk to you and see what your response would be if you did not know the writer. Like you said, ppl will open up and talk more here than in person. Quite a shame, really.

As far as your trips, well there have been "other" states as well.

You are a sweetie, always have been, always will be.

Bammy said...

ok..so another trip I took was to the mountains.. good friends.. good times.. and thank god they didnt let me jump..LOL..

Anonymous said...

wow Boots, you really know how to stir things up!! lori